Comments on: Where can I check my motherhood identity? http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/ Motherhood, babies, life, celebrities, politics...kitty's claws come out when she's in the mood. Mon, 19 Oct 2009 12:51:34 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: kittytime http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-238 kittytime Thu, 02 Aug 2007 15:32:17 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-238 I love all the comments from KT readers and feel compelled to clarify that I don't hide the fact that I'm a mom (as evidenced by the pictures of my daughter on my office door) but because of the circumstances of my work environment, I don't bring it up unless necessary. Example - doctor's appointment, then I will say I'm going to be late because I'm taking her to the doctor. Again, I think my motherhood is an important integral part of my identity but because of the atmosphere of my office, in particular a boss who has no children, I don't advertise it unless asked first about how she is doing. Which I think is unfortunate. I've enjoyed reading the new blogs I'm seeing linked to here in these comments as well. KT I love all the comments from KT readers and feel compelled to clarify that I don’t hide the fact that I’m a mom (as evidenced by the pictures of my daughter on my office door) but because of the circumstances of my work environment, I don’t bring it up unless necessary. Example – doctor’s appointment, then I will say I’m going to be late because I’m taking her to the doctor. Again, I think my motherhood is an important integral part of my identity but because of the atmosphere of my office, in particular a boss who has no children, I don’t advertise it unless asked first about how she is doing. Which I think is unfortunate. I’ve enjoyed reading the new blogs I’m seeing linked to here in these comments as well.
KT

]]> By: GHD http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-237 GHD Thu, 02 Aug 2007 15:06:11 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-237 When I was working (I'm a SAHM, now), I had no problem with "wearing my badge of motherhood" with pride... but only when it was relevant. Fortunately, my job offered me more flexibility than most. For instance, I could block off time on my calendar to pump. Only my boss and immediate teammates knew that time was for. I never brought it up to everyone else; they thought I was "just busy" and planned around it. I was very clear about the fact that I had additional priorities, not OTHER priorities in my life. When I was at work, I kept my focus on working things and the photos and silly new mom stories to a minimum. When I was working (I’m a SAHM, now), I had no problem with “wearing my badge of motherhood” with pride… but only when it was relevant. Fortunately, my job offered me more flexibility than most.

For instance, I could block off time on my calendar to pump. Only my boss and immediate teammates knew that time was for. I never brought it up to everyone else; they thought I was “just busy” and planned around it.

I was very clear about the fact that I had additional priorities, not OTHER priorities in my life. When I was at work, I kept my focus on working things and the photos and silly new mom stories to a minimum.

]]> By: LawyerMama http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-236 LawyerMama Thu, 02 Aug 2007 03:04:00 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-236 I can't check my mommyhood at the door. It just comes up too often. My hubby and I both travel and have pretty demanding jobs. If he's already scheduled to be out of town, I can't drop everything and fly to New York. Somebody's got to be here. And I haven't found that discussing my kids has hurt me in an way. I know plenty about my co-workers' personal lives and they know plenty about mine. I wouldn't enjoy my job quite so much if we didn't have that sort of connection. Of course, when I meet with a client for the first time, I'm not going to bust out the wallet and show them pictures of my kids unless they do it first! I can’t check my mommyhood at the door. It just comes up too often. My hubby and I both travel and have pretty demanding jobs. If he’s already scheduled to be out of town, I can’t drop everything and fly to New York. Somebody’s got to be here.

And I haven’t found that discussing my kids has hurt me in an way. I know plenty about my co-workers’ personal lives and they know plenty about mine. I wouldn’t enjoy my job quite so much if we didn’t have that sort of connection. Of course, when I meet with a client for the first time, I’m not going to bust out the wallet and show them pictures of my kids unless they do it first!

]]> By: MWL http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-235 MWL Thu, 02 Aug 2007 01:46:54 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-235 I bring mommy to work 60 percent of the time, the other 40 percent I check it at the door.. but given my recently getting passed over for the same job in the 3 years since ive been prego/new baby, perhaps I should consider checking mommy way more often.. maybe they are afraid b/c he is 3 and Im almost 38 that baby #2 has got to be coming soon.. all this shizz is for the birds.. I bring mommy to work 60 percent of the time, the other 40 percent I check it at the door.. but given my recently getting passed over for the same job in the 3 years since ive been prego/new baby, perhaps I should consider checking mommy way more often.. maybe they are afraid b/c he is 3 and Im almost 38 that baby #2 has got to be coming soon.. all this shizz is for the birds..

]]> By: Emma http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-234 Emma Wed, 01 Aug 2007 18:56:52 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-234 I am in the same boat as you are dear KT. I thought I had the flexibility, but alas now I do not. And I have to check my motherhood at the door in order to be treated the same as I was pre-baby. It's a shame, but it's reality for many. I am in the same boat as you are dear KT. I thought I had the flexibility, but alas now I do not. And I have to check my motherhood at the door in order to be treated the same as I was pre-baby. It’s a shame, but it’s reality for many.

]]> By: I’m out of the closet. Again. » Self-Made Mom http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-233 I’m out of the closet. Again. » Self-Made Mom Wed, 01 Aug 2007 18:41:03 +0000 http://kittytime.wordpress.com/2007/08/01/where-can-i-check-my-motherhood-identity/#comment-233 [...] caused quite a debate between my friend and I (so much that we had this wacky idea to have dueling blog posts about it [...] [...] caused quite a debate between my friend and I (so much that we had this wacky idea to have dueling blog posts about it [...]

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